Don't ask personal questions

jdavidb on 2007-08-10T15:34:38

Long long ago, Andy taught us not to ask personal questions, like "When are you having another child?"

Today a friend of mine lets me know asking questions about somebody else's adoption is personal, too.

You know, just in general, if you have to ask, you probably don't know the person well enough to be asking. When you find out something about somebody ("Oh, you adopted one of your children?") it may seem polite to make conversation about it, but remember that it is not a novelty to the person you're talking to, they've heard everything you can think of to say before, and they may not want you prying into details. Especially if they actually say, "I don't want you prying into the details."


Things change

petdance on 2007-08-11T05:25:08

It's funny to read that original thread about "Don't ask" that you refer to. There's extended ranting from Elaine Ashton about the "cult of parenthood" and "this freaky spawning-crazed time we seem to be in" and how "people seem totally obsessed about babies these days". And now she has a kid.